The One

Lead-in

  • Have you ever been in a love relationship? How many?
  • What is your idea of a perfect relationship?

Presentation

Pre

  • What are some “red flags” that people should watch out for on a first date?
  • What about “green flags”?

Top Down

  • What is the text about? Read it and find out.
  • Signs you’ve found the one.
  • Advice on how to act when in a relationship.
  • What not to do when in a relationship.
  • Signs you’ve found the one.
  • Advice on how to act when in a relationship.
  • What not to do when in a relationship.

You Have Fun Even When You Don’t Make Plans

When you’re with the right person, it won’t feel like you need to make elaborate plans every single time you hang out, Dana McNeil, PsyD, LMFT, a licensed marriage and family therapist and founder of The relationship Place, tells Bustle. You’ll notice that it feels just as good to sit in a quiet cafe, run a few errands, or hang out at your apartment as it does to go to dinner and a movie. Heck, even getting stuck in traffic won’t feel so bad because you’ll be together.

You’re Fully Authentic With Each Other

A lot of that early comfort will stem from the fact that it’s clearly OK to be authentic around one another — there aren’t any pretenses or a desire to be “on” 24/7 because you’ve already accepted each other.

“Whereas many people go through life holding back major pieces of themselves from everyone else and only sharing what they want [to be] seen — when you find ‘The One’ they really can ‘see’ you,” matchmaker Shlomo Zalman Bregman tells Bustle. “Moreover, you will feel comfortable to be yourself and feel loved, without any pretense.”

This mindset sets the stage for a solid relationship in the future, where you’ll both be able to communicate honestly and without judgment.

Conversations Flow Naturally

Speaking of communication, take note if it’s always seemed like the conversation flows naturally, Krantz says, from your first date onward. It doesn’t really matter what you talk about. There’s a nice balance between you talking and listening, and your partner talking and listening — and it results in the feeling that you “get” each other.

Adapted from source

Bottom Up

  • True or False?
  1. When you’re with the right person, you can keep things simple and they’re still fun.
  2. Even boring or annoying stuff like getting stuck in traffic won’t feel so good because you’ll be together.
  3. When you find the one, it’s OK to be authentic around one another because you’ve already accepted each other.
  4. In a good relationship, you’ll both be able to communicate honestly and without judgment. 
  5. What results in the feeling that you “get” each other is that there’s a nice balance between you talking and listening.
  1. When you’re with the right person, you can keep things simple and they’re still fun. True
  2. Even boring or annoying stuff like getting stuck in traffic won’t feel so good because you’ll be together. False
  3. When you find the one, it’s OK to be authentic around one another because you’ve already accepted each other. True
  4. In a good relationship, you’ll both be able to communicate honestly and without judgment. True
  5. What results in the feeling that you “get” each other is that there’s a nice balance between you talking and listening. True

Post

  • Do you agree with the text? Why or why not?

Target Language

Relationship Status

  • Seeing someone
  • Going out with 
  • Engaged with
  • Married with
  • Divorced
  • Widowed
  • Single
  • Dating someone
  • Living with someone
  • “Talking” to someone
  • It’s complicated
  • In an open relationship with someone

Controlled Practice

  • Match the words to their definitions. There is one example.

  1. Engaged

  2. Single

  3. Widowed

  4. Divorced

  5. Married

  6. Dating

(   ) Lose one’s spouse through death.

(   ) Having a husband or wife. 

(1) Having formally agreed to marry.

(   ) To regularly spend time with someone you have a romantic relationship with.

(   ) Unmarried or not involved in a stable relationship.

(   ) No longer married because the marriage has been legally dissolved.

  1. Engaged

  2. Single

  3. Widowed

  4. Divorced

  5. Married

  6. Dating

(3) Lose one’s spouse through death.

(5) Having a husband or wife. 

(1) Having formally agreed to marry.

(6) To regularly spend time with someone you have a romantic relationship with.

(2) Unmarried or not involved in a stable relationship.

(4) No longer married because the marriage has been legally dissolved.

Freer Practice

  • Use the target language and complete the sentences according to your own ideas.
  1. Dating someone is…
  2. Married people are…
  3. Living with someone is… because…
  4. I think love is… 
  5. I think being widowed is… and… because…
  6. I want to… and I think it’s going to be…
  7. Currently I’m…

Production

  • Use the target language and some adjectives to talk about 3 relationships of people you know. 

Example: My mom and my dad are divorced. They are happy and they get along…

Homework

Unscramble the letters to find different relationship statuses.

Example: 
iLnvgi hwit sooenem > Living with someone
  1. gniGo out whti
  2. Miderar hwti
  3. Daingt noeomse
  4. egSlin
  5. ioDercdv
  1. Going out with
  2. Married with
  3. Dating someone
  4. Single
  5. Divorced

Insert a relationship status from the two options. 

Example: Married is having a ______ (husband/knife) > Married is having a husband. 
  1.  You are ______ when your marriage is legally dissolved. (exhausted/divorced)
  2. He is a ______ . His spouse passed away last year. (widower/loner)
  3. They agreed to marry. Now, they are ________. (happy/engaged)
  4. She is _____: not involved with anyone. (single/free)
  5. They have a very romantic relationship. _____ is so beautiful. (Loving/Dating)
  1. You are divorced when your marriage is legally dissolved.
  2. He is a widower. His spouse passed away last year.
  3. They agreed to marry. Now, they are engaged.
  4. She is single: not involved with anyone. 
  5. They have a very romantic relationship. Dating is so beautiful. 

Read the sentences and choose the corresponding kind of relationship.  

Example: Sharon and Timothy live together, but they can other people too. > Status: open relationship 
  1.  He loved her so much. He visits her grave every year. Status: 
  2. They signed the papers and parted ways. Status:
  3. They are planning the wedding party. Status:
  4. They signed the papers! They are very happy with this. Status:
  5. They are together and apart at the same time. Sometimes they love each other, sometimes they hate each other. It’s weird. Status:
 
  1. He loved her so much. He visits her grave every year. > Status: widower.
  2. They signed the papers and parted ways. > Status: divorced.
  3. They are planning the wedding party. > Status: engaged.
  4. They signed the papers! They are very happy with this. > Status: married. 
  5. They are together and apart at the same time. Sometimes they love each other, sometimes they hate each other. It’s weird. > Status: complicated. 

Choose the right bracketed pronoun for the relationship status.

Example:  
Single people are not involved with _______ . (someone, somebody/someone, anyone) > Single people are not involved with anyone. 
  1. She is seeing _______ but she doesn’t talk about this. (someone, somebody/someone, anyone) 
  2. He wears a wedding ring, so he’s married to________. (someone, somebody/someone, anyone)
  3. She’s not engaged to __________. (someone, somebody/someone, anyone)
  4. He is not going out with _________. (someone, somebody/someone, anyone)
  5. She’s not single. She lives with ________. (someone, somebody/someone, anyone)
  1. She is seeing someone but she doesn’t talk about this. 
  2. He wears a wedding ring, so he’s married to someone. 
  3. She’s not engaged to anyone. 
  4. He is not going out with anyone.
  5. She’s not single. She lives with somebody. 

Order the words and write the relationship status.

Example: death. Lose spouse one’s through > Lose one’s spouse through death.
Status: Widowed.

  1. someone with To have romantic with. you a spend regularly relationship time
    Status:
  2. or wife. a Having husband 
    Status:
  3. the married marriage longer No been because legally has dissolved.
    Status:
  4. not in involved relationship. a stable Unmarried or
    Status:
  5. to agreed formally Having marry.
    Status:
  1. To regularly spend time with someone you have a romantic relationship with.
    Status: Dating.
  2. Having a husband or wife.
    Status: Married.
  3. No longer married because the marriage has been legally dissolved.
    Status: Divorced.
  4. Unmarried or not involved in a stable relationship.
    Status: Single.
  5. Having formally agreed to marry.
    Status: Engaged.

Writing

Write a short text about your idea of an ideal family and a not so ideal one.

Example: My idea of a perfect family is a married couple and…