Lead-in

  • What was the most important thing your parents taught you?
  • What types of families can you think of?
  • What are the advantages and disadvantages of each one?

Presentation

Pre

  • How important do you think having a family is? Talk about it.

Top Down

  • What is the main point of the text? Read it and find out.
  1. The type of family doesn’t matter
  2. Having both parents present is important
  1. All a kid needs is one of the parents if they do a good job
  2. When kids grow up they don’t remember things such as parents being present or not
  1. The type of family doesn’t matter
  2. Having both parents present is important
  1. All a kid needs is one of the parents if they do a good job
  2. When kids grow up they don’t remember things such as parents being present or not

Benefits of Shared Parenting

If done right, the benefits of shared parenting can spread across the entire family. One way that these benefits are shared is by direct interactions between both parents and their children. When the relationship ends and parents move into separate homes, children sometimes fear that they’ll lose touch with the parent who moves out or that their relationship will never be the same again. Allowing kids to spend time in both of their parents’ homes will benefit kids by helping them to feel less like they are forced to take sides. It will also help kids to understand that they were not abandoned by either of their parents after the split. Parents are also going through a difficult time with all the changes happening around them; it’s not easy for them to have to reduce the amount of time that they spend with the kids, too. Regular contact between the kids and each parent helps to reduce these feelings of loss on everyone’s part. Even though the intimate relationship between parents has ended, this doesn’t mean that being a family ends as well. Shared parenting time allows for children to continue cultivating relationships with each of their parents individually. A parenting time arrangement will be an important piece that dictates the amount of time each parents spends with their kids. A 50/50 parenting time plan will allocate each parent with equal time, but this is not always the best fit for every family.  No matter what the parenting time agreement becomes, parents and kids can still be in touch with each other when they are not together via phone, text, email, or even webcam. If done right, technology can benefit shared parenting by keeping a family in touch even when they cannot all be together physically. Staying in touch even when apart helps parents and kids to maintain relationships and lessen the emotional stress of being apart.

Shared parenting benefits run deeper than simply fostering relationships within a family. If done right, shared parenting can also encourage healthy child development. Children have different emotional needs at different stages of their lives. Very young kids might be vocal about how much they miss Mom or Dad when they aren’t with one of them, and some teenagers might seem indifferent about which parent they are staying with. The reverse of these two scenarios is also possible, meaning that every child truly is different no matter their age.  When children are still very young, they often benefit from spending ample time with each of their parents. They are still constructing relationships with both of them, and these bonds formed early in a child’s life help to develop long-standing trust and friendship. As kids get older and have more responsibilities like school or part-time jobs, it might become more difficult to have frequent parenting time transitions. While there may be less frequent transitions, periods of parenting time might last longer than before. This gives a child an opportunity to focus more on their own responsibilities while not having to worry about getting packed to go to their other parent’s house so often. Technology helps families stay connected in these cases when someone is away for a period of time, so parents and kids should be able to reach each other whenever they need to even when apart. With the bonds that parents and kids developed early on and continue to cultivate today, plus the technology that allows them to stay connected, being away from each other might not feel as hard as it could. If done right, having these factors in place helps to promote healthy emotional development in kids in the long run.

Encouraging healthy development in kids is something both parents should do. If done right, parents should be working to collaborate their efforts in this instead of working against each other. Shared parenting often calls for the parents to discuss matters regarding their kids and their schedule, so a need for communication is created. For many parents who have unsettled disputes between them, just talking to each other might be difficult enough. Finding a neutral ground for communication, such as an online platform that doesn’t require face-to-face or phone communication, can help to isolate potentially heated conversations to a place where the kids cannot observe it. When you must meet with your co-parent directly for an event such as a parenting time exchange, you can keep your interaction between each other brief and reserve anything you might want to say to your neutral communication platform. When parents are able to set aside conflicts in front of the kids, everyone benefits. One benefit is that children will see their parents as positive role models for how to communicate in a cordial manner with others. Another benefit is that unwanted anxiety and stress will be lifted off the kids’ shoulders by not watching their parents argue. By putting this kind of communication into practice, parents have the opportunity to build an amicable relationship over time that is centered on collaborating efforts for the sake of their children’s well-being.

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Bottom Up

  • True or False?

Example: There are no benefits in having both parents present. False

  1. If properly done, the benefits of shared parenting can spread across the whole family.
  2. Making kids take sides is also important because they learn how to make decisions by themselves.
  3. If the love relationship between parents has ended, it probably means that being a family ends as well.
  4. Technology helps families stay together even if they’re far away from each other.
  5. One benefit is that anxiety and stress will be lifted off the kids’ shoulders by not watching their parents fight.
  1. If properly done, the benefits of shared parenting can spread across the whole family. True
  2. Making kids take sides is also important because they learn how to make decisions by themselves. False
  3. If the love relationship between parents has ended, it probably means that being a family ends as well. False
  4. Technology helps families stay together even if they’re far away from each other. True
  5. One benefit is that anxiety and stress will be lifted off the kids’ shoulders by not watching their parents fight. True

Post

  • Do you agree with the text? Why or why not?
  • Do you think that having a child is a reason strong enough to not get divorced? Why or why not?

Target Language

Both and Neither

We use both to connect positive ideas, whereas neither is used to connect negative ideas. After phrases with both or neither, we use the verbs in the plural form.

  • Both doctors and lawyers are considered successful professionals.
  • Both (of them) are considered successful professionals.
  • Neither Barney nor Ted were well-behaved as children.
  • Neither (of them) were well-behaved as children.

Expressing Solutions

Useful expressions to declare solutions:

  • The solution is to solve the equations for X and convert the result to meters.
  • One thing they could do is file a lawsuit against the company.
  • To be acknowledged in your workplace, you really have to… demonstrate interest and be proactive.
  • The best way to make friends is going to parties.

Controlled Practice

  • Analyze the sentences and complete them by matching them with both or neither. There is one example.
  1. Both
  2. Neither

(   ) Democrats control _______ Congress nor the White House, but they are trying their best to control the judicial nominating process.

(   ) The author has already said that the Half Blood Prince is _______ Harry nor Voldemort.

(   ) The author relies primarily on a variety of written sources, _______ manuscripts and printed.

(   ) He was that rare bird, a significant figure in two fields, _______ art and science.

(   ) There are wallabies, meerkats, flamingoes, maras and tamarin monkeys in _______ zoos.

(   ) It is _______ our intention nor in our interest to take him out or hurt him.

(1) The conclusion there seems to be that _______ a tenth planet and an errant star are unlikely to exist.

(   ) Circe and Alex _______ stood up and began walking down the branch gymnasts on the balance beam.

  1. Both
  2. Neither

(2) Democrats control _______ Congress nor the White House, but they are trying their best to control the judicial nominating process.

(2) The author has already said that the Half Blood Prince is _______ Harry nor Voldemort.

(1) The author relies primarily on a variety of written sources, _______ manuscripts and printed.

(1) He was that rare bird, a significant figure in two fields, _______ art and science.

(1) There are wallabies, meerkats, flamingoes, maras and tamarin monkeys in _______ zoos.

(2) It is _______ our intention nor in our interest to take him out or hurt him.

(1) The conclusion there seems to be that _______ a tenth planet and an errant star are unlikely to exist.

(1) Circe and Alex _______ stood up and began walking down the branch gymnasts on the balance beam.

Freer Practice

  • Complete the sentences according to your own ideas.
    • The solution for violence is neither… nor…
    • Two things the government could do is both… and…
    • The best way to get money is to…
    • If there are two things I love they are both related to…
    • Neither of my friends are…

Production

  • Talk about the following using the Target Language.

Example: Both chocolate and honey are tasty.

  1. Going out – Staying home
  2. Sunny day – Rainy day
  3. Work – Rest
  1. Loud music – Silence
  2. Listening to music – Watching TV
  3. Colorful – Black and white

Homework

Complete the sentences with BOTH or NEITHER. 

Example: In ____ cases, the architecture and lights operate in tension with each other. > In both cases, the architecture and lights operate in tension with each other. 

  1. He was that rare bird, a significant figure in two fields, ____ art and science. 
  2. When ____ of them are set after the same slimy car thief who has jumped bail things get out of hand. 
  3. The author has already said that the Half-Blood Prince is ____ Harry nor Voldemort. 
  4. The court order was soon breached on several occasions and now bailiffs have carried out evictions at ____ houses.
  5. It is ____ our intention nor in our interest to take him out or fire him. 
  1. He was that rare bird, a significant figure in two fields, both art and science. 
  2. When both of them are set after the same slimy car thief who has jumped bail things get out of hand. 
  3. The author has already said that the Half Blood Prince is neither Harry nor Voldemort. 
  4. The court order was soon breached on several occasions and now bailiffs have carried out evictions at both houses. 
  5. It is neither our intention nor in our interest to take him out or assassinate him. 

Match the collocations with their respective definitions. There is one example.

  1. At the end of each hand,  

  2. But neither she nor her three sisters,  

  3. Italian pastry-cooks worked 

  4. Democrats control neither Congress nor the White House,  

  5. When they finally meet it’s love at first sight,   

(   ) who are 12, 19 and 23, were railroaded into sport. 

(   ) but they are trying their best to control the judicial nominating process. 

(1) if both players on a team won, the team scores the total of their points.

(   ) and neither they nor the reader can quite believe how sudden and idyllic it all is. 

(   ) in both France and England during the 16th century and introduced many new baked goods. 

  1. At the end of each hand,  

  2. But neither she nor her three sisters,  

  3. Italian pastry-cooks worked 

  4. Democrats control neither Congress nor the White House,  

  5. When they finally meet it’s love at first sight,   

(2) who are 12, 19 and 23, were railroaded into sport.

(4) but they are trying their best to control the judicial nominating process.

(1) if both players on a team won, the team scores the total of their points.

(5) and neither they nor the reader can quite believe how sudden and idyllic it all is.

(3) in both France and England during the 16th century and introduced many new baked goods. 

Put the words in the correct order. 

Example: he / of life / sentenced / to concurrent / In March / imprisonment./ counts / was / on both / terms / > In March he was sentenced on both counts to concurrent terms of life imprisonment. 

  1.  a hack. / is / The director / a left / is /but  / nationalist, / he  / a charlatan / neither / nor
  2. They / close-lipped / have / consequently / terrible / both / and / terrible, / smiles. / teeth,
  3. are / figurative / Scottish / do / we / both / in a / both /paintings / seedy / We / underworld. / set / and
  4. inter-religious / issue / inter-ethnic / The / is neither / but / inter-generational./ nor / primary
  5. he / Since / neither / he / poetry / be lyrical./ drama / writes / said, / his / only / nor epic, / can
  1. The director is a left nationalist, but he is neither a charlatan nor a hack. 
  2. They both have terrible teeth, and consequently terrible, close-lipped smiles. 
  3. We are both Scottish and we both do figurative paintings set in a seedy underworld. 
  4. The primary issue is neither inter-ethnic nor inter-religious but inter-generational. 
  5. Since he writes neither drama nor epic, he said, his poetry can only be lyrical. 

Complete the sentences using expressions to declare solutions to the problem presented.  

Example: I’ve lost my cellphone.  < The best way to find your cellphone is to call it. 

  1. You failed an important exam. One thing you could do is…
  2. I can’t earn more money at my current job. To have a raise in my salary,  I really have to…
  3. I need to arrive at the airport in 20 minutes. The best way to get there is… 
  4. I’m always late for work! The solution is…
  5. My mom is sick at the hospital. One thing I could do is…

Find and correct the mistakes.

  1. Doctors said that neither women were suffering from tension and mental agony, but were physically fine.
  2. It is under both a moral nor a legal obligation to give any weight to its predetermined decision.
  3. For the first quarter, neither teams were all over the place, and for the last they were only marginally more composed.
  4. For this Olympics, Taiwan spared both money nor effort to win international recognition.
  5. He considered his work both ironic or kitsch, being convinced of its artistic seriousness. 
  1. Doctors said that both women were suffering from tension and mental agony, but were physically fine. 
  2. It is under neither a moral nor a legal obligation to give any weight to its predetermined decision.
  3. For the first quarter, both teams were all over the place, and for the last they were only marginally more composed. 
  4. For this Olympics, Taiwan spared neither money nor effort to win international recognition. 
  5. He considered his work neither ironic nor kitsch, being convinced of its artistic seriousness. 

Writing

Write about your 5 favorite things and your 5 least favorite things and compare them using both and neither.

Example: I love floral scents even though I’m not a big fan of sweet scents, and I think that both are…